When More Sex Can Make You Less Happy

If you’re looking for a boost in happiness, having more sex may not be your best bet. New research suggests that upping the frequency of sex can make individuals less happy under some circumstances.

Researchers divided couples into two groups, asking one group to double how many times they had sex every week, while asking the control group to stay the course and have as much sex as they normally would. By the end of the three-month study, the people who increased their sexual forays were actually less happy than they were at the beginning of the study, the researchers found.

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“The findings were a surprise and a disappointment,” said the study’s lead researcher, George Loewenstein, a professor of economics and psychology at Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh. “We were expecting that the people who had more sex would enjoy it a lot and would be happier, and it would be good for the relationship. [The Sex Quiz: Myths, Taboos and Bizarre Facts]

“Instead, what we found was that the group who had more sex enjoyed it less, they wanted it less and they reported lower levels of happiness,” Loewenstein told Live Science.

However, the finding doesn’t necessarily mean that more sex makes people unhappy, he said. It could be that being ordered to have sex puts a damper on it.

“Whether you do something because you want to or because you are instructed to can have a huge impact on how much you enjoy it,” Loewenstein said.

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Countless studies show a link between sex and happiness. For instance, one analysis of 16,000 American adults found that people who had more sex had high levels of self-reported happiness. Another study found that people who have more active sex lives also reported having happier relationships.

But both of these studies are correlational; it’s not clear whether sex directly causes happiness, or whether other factors, such as health or personality, are at play.

The researchers of the new study attempted to determine a more direct connection between sexual frequency and happiness, they said.

They recruited 128 healthy people between the ages of 35 and 65 who were in married heterosexual relationships. The participants completed a number of surveys on their personalities, emotions and libidos at the beginning and end of the study, as well as a daily survey to help the researchers monitor changes throughout the 90-day study.

Sex: Top Surprising Health Benefits
Contrary to Loewenstein’s expectations, the couples who were directed to have more sex reported lower levels of happiness by the study’s end.

Still, sex is crucial to any healthy marriage, he said.

“A lot of people rate sex as the number one most pleasurable activity,” Loewenstein said. “It’s good for your health and it burns some calories.”

The study was published online May 4 in the Journal of Economic Behavior & Organization.

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WHAT MEN REALLY THINK ABOUT WOMEN'S BODY

http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/mans-relationship-with-female-body


Is there anything more glorious, more mystifying, more complicated than a woman’s body? From the moment we realize as kids that girls may not actually have cooties, heterosexual men thin

k more about women’s bodies than almost anything else. And not just the parts you'd expect, like boobs and ... well, boobs. When it comes to women, we’re fascinated with the whole package.

We did a survey to find out exactly what guys (and owomen) think about every aspect of a woman’s body. From haircuts to tattoos, makeup to body weight, their complicated brains to their controversial farts, we learned some surprising things. Some of these results may surprise you, and some may piss you off. It’s all food for thought.

And as for that jealousy about her ability to have multiple orgasms, it doesn’t have to be that way. Here’s how You Can Have Multiple Orgasms Too.

MEDICAL BENEFITS OF SEX

1. Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming
“Sexually active people take fewer sick days,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD a sexual health expert.

People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less often.

2. Boosts Your Libido
Longing for a more lively sex life? “Having sex will make sex better and will improve your libido,” says Lauren Streicher, MD. She is an assistant clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago.

For women, having sex ups vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity, she says, all of which make sex feel better and help you crave more of it.

3. Improves Women's Bladder Control
A strong pelvic floor is important for avoiding incontinence, something that will affecet about 30% of women at some point in their lives.

Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.

4. Lowers Your Blood Pressure
Research suggests a link between sex and lower blood pressure, says Joseph J. Pinzone, MD. He is CEO and medical director of Amai Wellness.

“There have been many studies,” he says. “One landmark study found that sexual intercourse specifically (not masturbation) lowered systolic blood pressure.” That's the first number on your blood pressure test.

5. Counts as Exercise
“Sex is a really great form of exercise,” Pinzone says. It won’t replace the treadmill, but it counts for something.

Sex uses about five calories per minute, four more calories than watching TV. It gives you a one-two punch: It bumps up your heart rate and uses various muscles.

So get busy! You may even want to clear your schedule to make time for it on a regular basis. “Like with exercise, consistency helps maximize the benefits,” Pinzone says.

5 STRANGE SEX FACTS

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Women are more willing to commit adultery during their ovulation than at any other time throughout their cycle—most notably due to their bodies’ desire to fertilize the ovulated egg.

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Most women who lose their virginity between ages fifteen and nineteen actually wish they had waited a bit longer. Additionally, most teenagers lose their virginity by age 17, but those who have not lost their virginity by 24 tend to stay a virgin.

3
If a female ferret does not have sex for a year, she will die. Thankfully, this is not true for human females whose sexual desires can remain strong, but not strong enough that the anticipation and waiting will cause them to die.

4
Some people are wired to have more sex than others. Scientists are not entirely sure why this is, but it is true in both males and females. Some will want more, while others will want less; it just depends on how their brain is wired.

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This is one of the weird sex facts that most of us have not heard about before. During intercourse, your inner nose swells just as your breasts and genitals will. This is most notably due to the increased flow of blood while having intercourse.

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Is Sex During Pregnancy Safe?

One minute, the sight of your partner makes you want to put him out with the weekly garbage; the next, you might want to play a couple of rounds of naked Twister. Par for the course during pregnancy.

See, as your estrogen and progesterone levels rise, they cause changes in your body that boost libido. Estrogen in particular, which serves such pregnancy-related functions as boosting blood flow to your uterus (and to your entire pelvis), also increases vaginal lubrication andheightens sensitivity in your breasts and nipples.

It’s a righteous recipe for romance. But the same hormones can also conspire against you, especially in the beginning when nausea and fatigue can send you to bed for an entirely different reason. And toward the end, you may just feel too huge, unwieldy and, again, tired. (That’s why months four to six or so are often called the “honeymoon” trimester.)

So where does that leave you? The X factor in the sex equation is the relationship between your changing moods and your changing body: Just as every woman’s pregnancy is unique, so is every pregnant woman’s sex drive. If your spirit is willing but fears or misinformation are holding you back, this advice can help you relax.

Sex is usually safe.
If you do want to have sex, embrace the ubiquitous three-word Nike slogan. As long as your pregnancy is progressing normally, you can have sex as often as you like (some exceptions may include a history of miscarriage or preterm labor).

Be aware that it’s pretty common for some women to experience bleeding during intercourse, especially in the first trimester. This is caused by the normal swelling of capillaries in the cervix, which can burst when irritated during sex. While such spotting or bleeding is generally nothing to worry about, you should still mention it to your doctor or midwife.

What’s more, there’s typically no chance of hurting the baby during sex because the amniotic fluid and your cervix protect him. But one caution: If you have oral sex, your partner should not blow air into your vagina, as during pregnancy this can cause an air bubble to block a blood vessel.

VIAGRA: It do Have Side Effects

Viagra is a well known medicine for the treatment of erectile dysfunction. Viagra, as a fact if not taken by the right doses, has so many side effects. Some people think that this medicine can be taken any time to have a night full of red roses. These people is not aware that they are risking their own lives for an hour pleasure which, in many cases, could fail to be so. In this post, and after while of not posting on my blog, I would like to list for you the side effects of Viagra to be aware of using such a medicine without your doctor's advice. In many reported cases, Viagra has side effects, such as:

• sudden vision loss;
• ringing in your ears, or sudden hearing loss;
• chest pain or heavy feeling, pain spreading to the arm or shoulder, nausea, sweating, general ill feeling;
• irregular heartbeat;
• swelling in your hands, ankles, or feet;
• shortness of breath;
• vision changes;
• feeling light-headed, fainting; or
• penis erection that is painful or lasts 4 hours or longer.

Less serious side effects may include:

• warmth or redness in your face, neck, or chest;
• stuffy nose;
• headache;
• memory problems;
• upset stomach; or
• back pain.

The dangerous fact in our world, that many young people are taking such medicines to see the effects of Viagra, while obviously they are damaging their health. Please read the full article at http://www.rxlist.com/viagra-side-effects-drug-center.htm

Women and Oral Sex

Alison Manheim

"It's a myth that young women aren't hungry for sexual pleasure for themselves," says Felice Newman, author of The Whole Lesbian Sex Book (Cleis Press, 1999). "Once young women feel more empowered to get their sexual needs met, more men are going to have to start going down on their partners, because that's the only way they're going to get any action," she adds.
If you're still waiting for your boyfriend to take the plunge, we've got some advice on how to help things along.
Communicate Your Desires "Sex can be about love and intimacy, and sex can be about fun, but it's not going to be about either if each partner is withholding information," says Newman.
Men are not mind readers, and they're not vibrators, either (you can't just flip a switch and expect them to go faster or slower). Good sex happens when you learn to communicate your desires to your partner. That means telling your partner in a loving way that you'd like him to touch you in a certain way, in a certain place, etc.
Guys don't deserve all the blame for the paucity of cunnilingus (aka "going down"). Many women have outdated notions of what "nice girls" do or are hung up on personal hygiene issues. Two of the biggies are:
1. Do I look normal down there? Men grow up comparing themselves in locker rooms. Women's sex organs, concealed between their legs rather than hanging down between them, aren't on display in the same way. As a result, it's easy to think that your private parts are overly wrinkled, hairy, whatever. One of the best ways to get over this discomfort is to realize that the external genitalia come in all different shapes, sizes, and colors. Realize that many guys don't even know what a vagina is supposed to look like. Most people, male or female, rarely take the time to inspect their partner's genitalia in detail.
2. Do I smell or taste funny? The odor of a normal, healthy vagina has been unfairly portrayed in moronic jokes. The feminine hygiene industry, which has a vested interest in women thinking that their vaginas should smell like potpourri, doesn't help boost self-esteem in this area, either. The truth is that the vagina is a self-cleaning organ, particularly during sexual arousal, when it secretes a clear fluid (nature's own "lube"). For many men, a woman's natural smell is a very powerful aphrodisiac (it can actually make him even more aroused). Still squeamish? If you must be squeaky clean to enjoy the moment, take a shower before sex. If time is of the essence, a quick once-over with a warm, soapy washcloth should do the trick. Other creative ideas include keeping a handy wipe or two by the bed; they're not just useful at barbecue restaurants.
Obligatory Buzz Kill While you can't get pregnant during cunnilingus, there is a risk of STDs, including genital herpes and warts. During menstruation, there is an increased risk of transmitting HIV if the woman is HIV positive. A barrier method of protection (such as a dental dam or square piece of latex) is recommended for any sexual encounter, oral or otherwise, to prevent transmission.